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Marriage Advice

September 29, 2010

I have been married 6 years, in the NFL that would make me a veteran. In the secular world, the 6th year is the worst, you know it’s the year when you stop having sex and things get boring… or at least that is what the guys on the construction site say. I got married young and have not regretted one moment of it.

Being married 6 years doesn’t make me an expert but I do know a thing or two… here are a few things that I just sent to a friend of mine concerning marriage.

Let me know if you got some other good advice too, especially you newly weds!

  1. Prefer Her– over all else, she is most important. Get this right and your off on the right foot.
  2. Prioritize your time– It seems like a little organization would go a long way. Make your schedule and keep it. Aside from your relationship with Christ, she needs to be first priority. This means as a husband you are going to have to cut out some of your hobbies like fantasy football, guys night out, Youtube browsing and anything else that just wastes your time. Remember you have a woman who just committed her life to you… why would you want anything else?
  3. Set a “date” night– This night is set aside to do whatever you both want to do. For me it looks like me asking Abbie what she wants to do and us doing it. Doesn’t have to be expensive, sometime just going for a walk together would be good. GUARD THIS NIGHT! Nothing else happens on this night.

Ok guys, let’s hear your thoughts.

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6 Comments leave one →
  1. September 29, 2010 7:19 am

    Good word, bro.

    • Benjamin Davis permalink*
      September 29, 2010 7:49 am

      Thanks David. Nice to see a comment from you bro!

  2. Roy Schrag permalink
    September 29, 2010 1:17 pm

    I would add praying with her and have a Bible study with her. My wife and I get to take a Discipleship class together and has the Lord blessed us.

  3. Lisa permalink
    September 30, 2010 8:07 am

    Who says the 6th year is the worst and the sex ends? I never heard either of those comments! I’ve heard of the 7 year itch though. However, I think there are challenges in every year, it’s how you handle them that determines whether your marriage gets boring or not. But definitely a huge part of not letting that happen is putting eachother first. That’s huge, and remembering that there is great power in your words. How you speak of your spouse to others should always be in a positive way, how you speak to your spouse during arguments should never be hurtful or demeaning. Remember, woman have a very long memory. I think it’s important to never stop dreaming together, whether it’s about the house you want, the children you will have, the career paths you take, to the grandchildren you want to spoil some day. There’s something about being able to share your deepest feelings with someone that is very special. And never go to bed mad at eachother. Someone needs to be the hero in the relationship and mature enough to let the small stuff go. There will be enough big issues that you will have to go through together, don’t let the insignificant stuff pull you apart. And never turn away or to anyone else in your marriage, there will be issues, deal with them together. And lots of hugs and kisses and cuddles could never make a guy look bad. I always thought the sexiest thing about a man is not how he looks or acts, it’s how well he treats his wife. Believe me, a husband that does that for his wife is never going to go around saying the sex has died. So here’s some advice for you, my friend, if you do these few things right now, the intimacy between you and your wife will only grow more exciting, deeper and meaningful and you won’t have to worry about your sex life dying. Now that sounded like a Ben Davis story!

  4. Lisa permalink
    September 30, 2010 8:36 am

    And when I say what makes a guy sexy, I don’t mean a guy to walks around saying his wife is beautiful or hot, I mean a guy who truly treats his wife with love and respect and importance, and when you can tell he truly loves her by his actions, not just his words.

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