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You Are Older and I am Younger- Guest Post Ben Lemery

August 18, 2010

I asked my on-line friend Ben Lemery to write a post on how younger leaders should react when it comes to gaining influence with those above them. Below are his thoughts. Follow him on Twitter here.


I am a little over half a year away from becoming thirty years old.  At this point, I feel like I have accomplished very little but still have a huge vision in my heart to change the world.

Usually, I lay in bed, trying to get to sleep but instead use it as catch up time to air my grievances about my life and why I am not where I think I should be at the age of 29.  I mean, here I am, with a great vision in my heart to do great things for God, why doesn’t He recognize these things?  He sees it all so why doesn’t He see me?

I think a lot of young adults feel this way.  They tend to come in with great vision, zeal and hunger for the things of God only to be met with resistance by their older contemporaries.  We are told to serve, we want to lead; we are told to learn, we want to teach.  Then we wonder why an older generation isn’t leaping out of their seats to help us further the vision that we firmly believe is in our hearts.

Biblically we don’t recognize that God used time to form and develop people who could be used fully for His purposes.  We are turned on by the power that Moses had when he faced Pharaoh but skip over the forty year section that prepared him for his moment of leadership.  Jesus enters onto the stage at thirty years old, is baptized and then the heavens open up, God speaks, it’s like the Superbowl in a pond.  Our modern culture would throw a party, a parade and eat a lot of food; Jesus is instead led by the Holy Spirit into the desert to fast and pray for forty days.  Let’s not forget those massive temptations that were presented personally by the devil.  Paul took three years after his conversion to be taught the ways of Christ.

It appears that precedence is quite clear that God would rather have a finely processed final product than a shoddily made piece of crap.

If you want to be used by God then consider the following steps:

  1. Bloody your knees in prayer first so you can be used publicly later.  Leonard Ravenhill stated, “Tell me how much time you spend alone with God and I will tell you how spiritual you are.”
  2. Most elders are not there to hijack your vision, they are there to help you.  Honor them.  “The elders who rule well are to be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who work hard at preaching and teaching.” (1 Timothy 5:17)
  3. Not to be blunt but shut up once in awhile.  We really think a lot of ourselves and the reality is, unless we die, pick up our cross and live for Christ, all of our “good works” and “good visions” will be nothing but dung before God.  I don’t want my life’s legacy to be a pile of poo so clearly I need to make a choice and let God change my heart so I can serve Him fully.

I am almost thirty and I think some of what I just wrote is making sense now, which makes me wonder what I am going to be like when I approach forty.  Maybe a little wiser?

5 Comments leave one →
  1. Benjamin Davis permalink*
    August 18, 2010 12:14 pm

    Great post Ben L.! Very insightful!

  2. August 18, 2010 1:05 pm

    thanks for the kick in the pants.

    • benlemery permalink
      August 18, 2010 6:58 pm

      Just stuff a pillow in your pants and it won’t hurt as much. =P

  3. August 18, 2010 6:54 pm

    Really, really good.

  4. August 19, 2010 12:24 am

    I like the post Ben. Great stuff here.

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